Subway Etiquette – Insider’s Rules to Navigate the Underground City

One of the many reasons I like New York is because of its people, who are infamous for being rude. In reality, New Yorkers are the kindest people I have ever met; however, they are also the most annoyed people, and rightfully so. This city is overwhelming, and if you’re not constantly moving, the crowd, delays, and constant interruptions can drain your energy over the course of the day.

Because New Yorkers are impatient, and the city is dense, and there is so much to do and see, here are some things to keep in mind while navigating the subway–the insider’s rules- some are spoken, some are unspoken, some are plastered in subway cars yet people choose to ignore them, and some you learn along the way…

• Wait for people to get off the train before you get in…. Again WAIT for people to get out and stand at the side of the door for them to leave before getting in.
• Do not stand by the door, get in and find a seat or get out of the way if there is space.
• Do not “manspread,” I repeat do not “manspread”. Do not take up more space than necessary. Be conscious of the people around you who may need the seat.
• Try to avoid headphones on the subway. Even if you are wearing headphones, do not play your music too loudly so you do not miss announcements or become unaware of your surroundings. 101 tips to maintain safety and connection.
• (Personal Preference) Stop being so touchy and all lovey couples… in the beginning I used to go awww, now I’m just annoyed that it's not me…HATER.
• When someone is rushing and the doors are about to close, try and hold it open for them. One day someone will return the favor for you as well. (not advised unless they're actually running and deserve the help, because you don't want to cause delays by holding the door for too long)
• If someone asks you for directions, always always help them out, as a New Yorker you are bound to help people navigate and flex your knowledge of the city and sense of direction.
• If you can afford to pay the fare, PAY the fare, MTA heavily relies on fares to cover its operation and maintenance costs!
• If you see something, keep moving and reach a safe space before you say something, unless someone is nearby whom you can tell right away.
• Ask for directions, if needed, people are always willing to help.
• Carry a book, crochet, something to do outside of trying to look busy on your phone or playing stupid games. Most people carry a book. It’s not pretentious and you build a good habit of reading an actual book. And people may engage you in a conversation about what you’re reading. It may even lead to a potential date….
• Get used to performers and music. Sometimes it’ll get overwhelming, but sometimes it's fun. You never know who needs that little bit of fun today to get through life. It may be YOU.
• Be annoyed by the loss of subway benches! They keep removing them and replacing them with leaning bars. It's STUPID AND HOSTILE! People need a place to sit and rest.
• Do not take up the entire pole and wrap your arms around it while on your phone preventing anyone else from using it. Leave space for others to hold on. Duh!
• DO NOT keep your bags on the seat next to you that could otherwise be used by someone to sit, unless it's an empty car with enough space for all.
• If someone is holding the emergency door open and telling you to get in, it’s better to use the turnstile and pay the fare. PAY the fare! 39% of MTA’s operation and maintenance cost relies on the fare.
• I know it's inconvenient to have delays and get stuck in the middle of the train lines, but do not lose your empathy and humanity, be patient.
• It's the best place to people-watch! But remember not to stare at people for too long.
• You can always switch your subway car at the next stop if you don't feel comfortable. Never feel you have to stay in a car that is making you anxious.
• Always take in your surroundings on the subway. There is so much life happening around you at all times. Soak it up!